Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn't serve the world. There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we're liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others. ~Marianne Williamson
It's hard to believe that we could fear the big thing that many of us really want... Success and Abundance, but it's true.
The key in moving forward and owning your success is to recognize what your fears are and face them head on.
Fear of Failure
As a result of our up bringing , many of us have a learned experience of failure and we unconsciously create from that vantage point of it being very familiar. Some of the thoughts we may have are:
What if I do "it" and it's not good enough, I'll be embarrassed.
I probably can't do it well enough, I won't even start.
Someone else is already doing it, I can't imagine doing it better.
It's just too hard.
Fear of success
Believe it or not, a fear of success is more common than a fear of failure.
Most of the reasons for a fear of success are a result of our early conditioning in life.
Some examples that might resonate with you are:
Loss of privacy.
Loss of time.
Too much responsibility.
I'm not smart, creative, interesting or powerful enough.
Association of success with trauma ( example is a father who lost everything).
Fear Associated with Money/Abundance
There won't be enough money to pay the bills.
Money doesn't come easy.
I keep coming up short... there is never enough.
Taking on another persons fear about $, could be a spouse, parent, partner, boss or employee.
I can't make enough to do what I want.
If I make more $ my ex is going to want to take it.
For me, I watched my mother struggle with money and it was always a message of "there's not enough money, you have to work hard to earn money, and if I don't pay my bills, what's going to happen!". It was a scary environment to grow up in and has been quite an adventure to move beyond. The good news is that I have moved beyond that belief system and have created a new idea that serves me so much more... and i get to share that information with you!
The solution is that we have to pay attention to that little voice in our head that is always talking.
When we are feeling anxious, angry or afraid, that is the best time to listen, because it's then that you can find your answer of how to change your thoughts around to a strategy that serves you better.
It's a process, and the tool below is the best bet for change.
I’ve been an entrepreneur for 35 years, and I have definitely seen my share of ups and downs with success. In looking back, one thing that I see clearly is that all of my success and failure happened because of my attitude. Every single time that I was in a place of lack and limitation, it was because of my perception. My perception was colored by my negative feelings about myself, my value and my intelligence.
It took me a while, as it was quite a process, but I can say that in so many ways, owning my success in life and business has been the most liberating thing I’ve ever done.
The program Tools for Transformation is basically a process of reconstructing your internal system to be highly charged in deep self-worth, appreciation, awareness and passion.
The “process” is easy and really very simple. I’ve created eight tools/practices that work to recreate your negative thinking into constructive actions. There’s a lot of information in a user-friendly format with an emphasis on focusing on the solutions for a successful business. All the tools especially when applied to a business setting are very powerful.
Are you owning your confidence and value? If the answer is no, then there’s a strong possibility that the people you want as clients are not seeing it either.
Are you having challenges communicating with clients or fellow employees? If the answer is yes, then there is another approach to communication that is fail proof to getting your point across in a constructive way.
Are you feeling overwhelmed with your business? If the answer is yes, then understanding your ability to choose calm in the face of drama, anxiety and stress is a certain life saver.
Do you want to generate more money? Get past your unconscious blocks and own your conscious intention.
Are you lacking inspiration and motivation? Then this is the plan for you!
This Focus on Success workshop absolutely creates bigger, better and more fun businesses… guaranteed.
Life is a mirror of our consciousness.
Evil never creates the internal feeling of deep self love.
As we live... love is the one thing that really matters.
Every thought and belief creates our life.
That is the main activity that we do each and every day, and most of us can't remember 90% of our thoughts at the end of the day. If you could, you would realize that 70% of those thoughts were probably negative. These subconscious thoughts are a representation of your life, and if you're not happy, there's a good reason. The great news is that there is a great way to change your thinking and your beliefs.
Mindfulness is a practice of constantly recognizing what the subconscious voice within is saying. Take the time to pay attention to the messages brought to the surface; this creates an opportunity to use your power to choose what benefits your life in the moment, and to choose what benefits all mankind for eternity.
When you recognize where your thoughts have been taking you, you create the ability to go about the process of changing them into something more intentional for yourself. I say it's a process because it takes time, patience, dedication and strength. The clients that I've had over the years who have owned this process are now living a life they never even dreamed of.
Stay tuned for the next blog where I'll share the tool that transforms those crazy ass thoughts into powerful action.