Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn't serve the world. There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we're liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others. ~Marianne Williamson
It's hard to believe that we could fear the big thing that many of us really want... Success and Abundance, but it's true.
The key in moving forward and owning your success is to recognize what your fears are and face them head on.
Fear of Failure
As a result of our up bringing , many of us have a learned experience of failure and we unconsciously create from that vantage point of it being very familiar. Some of the thoughts we may have are:
What if I do "it" and it's not good enough, I'll be embarrassed.
I probably can't do it well enough, I won't even start.
Someone else is already doing it, I can't imagine doing it better.
It's just too hard.
Fear of success
Believe it or not, a fear of success is more common than a fear of failure.
Most of the reasons for a fear of success are a result of our early conditioning in life.
Some examples that might resonate with you are:
Loss of privacy.
Loss of time.
Too much responsibility.
I'm not smart, creative, interesting or powerful enough.
Association of success with trauma ( example is a father who lost everything).
Fear Associated with Money/Abundance
There won't be enough money to pay the bills.
Money doesn't come easy.
I keep coming up short... there is never enough.
Taking on another persons fear about $, could be a spouse, parent, partner, boss or employee.
I can't make enough to do what I want.
If I make more $ my ex is going to want to take it.
For me, I watched my mother struggle with money and it was always a message of "there's not enough money, you have to work hard to earn money, and if I don't pay my bills, what's going to happen!". It was a scary environment to grow up in and has been quite an adventure to move beyond. The good news is that I have moved beyond that belief system and have created a new idea that serves me so much more... and i get to share that information with you!
The solution is that we have to pay attention to that little voice in our head that is always talking.
When we are feeling anxious, angry or afraid, that is the best time to listen, because it's then that you can find your answer of how to change your thoughts around to a strategy that serves you better.
It's a process, and the tool below is the best bet for change.