Audrey
The cries for help without and within,
She hears in her heart and breath of the wind.
“Heal my mind, my heart and my life.
Please help me cope in my time of strife.”
She listens and responds, prepared for debate,
As those in need defend their miserable state.
Though weary herself of what life demands,
She continues to counsel when others command.
The beauty of her soul shines through her smile,
When solitude in nature she strolls for a while.
To celebrate her life and a year that is new,
Dear Audrey, this comes with blessings for you.
~Amura

I'm looking back over this past year and pondering what went well, and what's needs to be addressed...

What has gone well are the people that I have been able to work with who have changed their lives and are now living with a strong intention, taking constructive action, creating greater, move loving relationships, being happier, healthier and more successful. It has been such a pleasure to watch you all expand your consciousness and own your power.
For me, this has made this past year extremely beneficial and fills me with deep appreciation. 

Luckily, much of what still needs to be addressed is already in action. More marketing, more expansion, more sharing of information, wisdom and insights. Nick and I are fired up and ready to assist with transformation and empowerment. 
Are you ready to make this new year one of the best of your life? You are very welcome to join us in the workshops, groups and classes, or see us for an individual session. Feel free to call for more information.

​Every time she comes over it’s with a gift in hand. Whether it’s a lunch from Trader Joes or a treasure she has had for years that she has to let go of because she has no place to keep it. The bigger part is the absolute joy that she feels in giving the gift away to see the happiness we express while receiving it.

I have many people that I come into contact with on a daily basis, and the most fulfilled are those, like this friend, who get so much out of finding the gratitude in making someone else smile.

She also loves to amuse the people around her. When we all laugh at her antics, her spontaneous singing, or boisterous off color jokes, she just sparkles with delight.

She has a great ability to pick herself up from what most of us would consider “the lowest you can go”. There is always a desire to “get it right” and find the answers to her life.

Her days are not easy in so many ways.
The thing that truly inspires me the most is her empathy and compassion. She truly cares deeply when someone that she loves feels bad. She cares about someone else’s day and has interest. That is something extremely special in today’s world.  

The friend is reading this and I know that she knows who she is. Keep smiling you unique ray of sunshine. Keep giving, keep living with great compassion, continue to amuse us all, and keep being such an example of what appreciation looks like. I am blessed to call you my friend. 


Also, the quote/photo was hers. Thanks!

We are such a fortunate country that we have the freedom to choose many of the circumstances that we live in. That is one of the greatest gifts that our United States has to offer, and, why many around the world try so desperately to be here.

We all have an opportunity to choose in the upcoming elections and that will have a say on the amount of "freedom" we create. Sadly, many of us don’t vote, and many that do, vote from ignorance.
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If you are not informed on this, it’s in your best interest to pay attention.
Tune in, choose many sources of news so that you can make your own conscious decision.
Vote from a place of integrity, focus on the solutions and what is best for not only you, but our country and world.
 
#WeAreAllConnected
#BeTheChange
#FocusOnSolutions
#OwnYourPower

Make a list of important or memorable people in your life. Pick one or two of them.
My mom.

What are the most powerful/ evocative moments you can remember with this person?
The most powerful moments with her are whenever we are having fun. It’s when we are being ourselves the most. We have silly conversations and laugh a lot. And whenever I’m feeling down she always gives me advice that makes me feel better about my situation.
 
​What words would best sum up this person?
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• cheerful
• kind
• serious
• loving
• motherly
• caring
• funny
• goofy

 
What assumptions would ordinary people make when they see this person? How are those assumptions right or wrong? 
Most assumptions that people make about her is that she is a normal housewife who supports her kids at their sporting or drama events and has her life dedicated to her kids. Even though most of that is true she is so much more than just “housewife”. She loves her job just as much as her kids and makes sure both of them are equal. She uses her job not only to help out the family but so she makes a difference in other people’s lives by acting as their therapist and friend. 
 
What lessons did you learn indirectly from this person’s actions?I indirectly learned that no matter what people may think of you; you are so much more than you seem.  
 
What lessons did you learn directly from this person’s advice?I directly learned from her that, in tough times in life, you have to pick yourself up by your bootstraps and get through it.

Ernest Holmes said, "Life is a mirror and will reflect back to the thinker what he thinks into it."
As all life is a mirror, we are all a mirror for each other.

Who I am in Serena's eyes makes me feel loved, happy, safe and cherished. Actually, who I am in Nick's, Ayla's,
and Malana's eyes makes me feel the same. It's the main reason I am so happy most of the time.

Recently one of my dearest friends made her transition, and this is what I said at her memorial service,
"Georgia always saw my intelligence and my value and she was such a beautiful mirror for me. 
I always knew where I stood with Georgia and in all the years together I don't remember one single time that we had an argument. When it came to my work and growing into the life of being a therapist, a speaker, a writer she would always support me."

Not everyone is a such a feel good kind of mirror, and just recently I had to tell someone that I didn't like the "me" that I was in their eyes. I let them know that I needed to take a minute and look at my behavior.
If that's what they were seeing. It was up to me to either change what I was doing, or look at the possibility that. what they saw might have been distorted. Either way, I didn't want to stay in a relationship the way that it was,
and I had to look at my part in what was going on.

As it turned out, what the person was upset about wasn't something that I was doing intentionally, and, I wasn't informed about what I did until weeks later. There was no communication to me that I had done anything wrong, just a change in the feeling of the relationship. When it finally came out, and I was able to access the situation, it was their perception of what I had done that made them so angry, and that perception wasn't at all what I had intended. They saw things through the filter of their own "stuff". 

I want to know when I have done something to make another person upset. How else am I going to be able to own my behavior? I know that I don't intentionally do malicious things to people, but I don't know when I've done something in my ignorance. It may be uncomfortable to hear it sometimes, but it's so much better than the uncomfortable feeling when someone is pulling away, sensing their anger or their passive aggressive behavior.
​Life is too short for that!

If I could count how many times clients come to me and say that they are angry with someone, and I ask them if they have let that person know. They almost always say no, they didn't tell them. For whatever reason, they don't feel comfortable letting them know about their behavior. So, they stay angry with the person, sometimes letting go of a perfectly good relationship because they don't want to confront them in a way that is constructive.

In another recent situation I did let a friend know that there was something bothering me. I used the constructive communication format, and am very happy to say that we "worked through it". The friendship is valuable to me, and it was worth the moment.

How many people are you angry or frustrated with that you have not told what's bothering you? 
How long has it been going on?
Why are you not letting them know?
Is it worth staying angry?
Is it worth losing the friendship?

Below is the constructive communication format. It's a practice/process to make this happen.

Comment below if you have any questions.

One week ago I was taking the day to clean/organize my home. When I do this I meditate and just get into a good groove with myself, a great vibration. I also was listening to one of my favorite books, “Co-Creating at Its Best” by Esther Hicks and Wayne Dyer on Audible. This book is an interview that Wayne Dyer did with Abraham and it has some powerful information that I have used to create a healthier and happier life for myself.