happy birthday Nick!

​Today is my husband’s birthday, he’s turning 6o years young! Quite a long time to be on this planet, and he has used his time here wisely. I put him at the very top of my list of people I know that live consciously. He has created a great balance of living in love, being very healthy, owning his abundance, and he is very happy most of the time. He has a focus on solutions, and I always trust that he’ll do what he says. 

I gave a little speech for him this past Saturday night. One of the most important things I feel that I said was how grateful I am that he is able to continually hear me when I communicate something that is a challenge for me and he immediately makes the adjustment to change whatever part he might have in it. 

I find that to be a high complement. There are quite a few marriages that end in divorce because the two are unable to communicate with each other in a way that’s constructive. Much of the time one of the two will not admit that they need to make any adjustments in their behavior or maybe they just don’t care that something doesn’t work for the other party. Regardless, it’s a very unconscious and insensitive approach to life and, generally speaking, it doesn’t really work for creating a lot of harmony.

I’ve worked with many people who have had issues communicating with their spouse, and it’s amazing how quickly things can get back on track with some open dialogue. If you want to create a happy and balanced marriage, there must be a continual working through the challenges that come up… cause let’s face it, something ALWAYS comes up. 

Feeling confident that we are able to talk to each other, and that there will be a mutual win/win happening, this is what makes a marriage last. Nick and I have been together for 16 years now, and I feel so blessed to have his love. 

I don’t know that I’ve ever met anyone who does “perfect” every minute of every day, but what I do know, is that it makes things perfect when couples commit to working through the challenges with love, compassion, respect, kindness and consideration. 

Thanks, Nick, for coming onto this planet 60 years ago so that I could love you deeply!